Friday, October 31, 2014

Last minute advice for Safe Holiday!

We all want to be safe this year, so I went to  "The Center of Disease Control" the CDC, who know more about safety than I.

My advice for parents

 1. Don't sweat the small stuff. If you drop a tray of cupcakes or a costume isn't staying together, don't make your part of the holiday, rain or shine in success, absorb the day. Enjoy others successful, if you fail, just as you would want them to enjoy yours. So rather than morn you lost, sit back, relax and eat another kids mom brownie.

2. Don't make this day JUST about honoring the dead. Even if you are painfully mourning a dearly beloved your current life more attention than those who moved.

3. Don't make this day, JUST a children's day of fun and games. Do take sometime to honor the day between all the trick - or - treating and parties to meditate.

4. Don't be afraid to change plans.

5. Most importantly, children eventually go to bed, so have fun!

From my family to your may you all have a Blessed Samhain and Happy Halloween!

Friday, October 24, 2014


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As Samhain approaches so does our cultural candy day, Halloween. I like to remind parents everywhere, that we can provide a fun and healthy holiday for our children without allowing them to pig out on store bought candy.

On holidays, it's natural children should have some treats, but what those treats are, are in our power.
First, how do you avoid all this junk food on a night such as Halloween. Well one of the simplest ways, is host your own party. Allowing you control of what's on the menu.

Whether you have a party or not it's important you provide your children special holiday treats that not only taste good, but look appealing. The secret is, finger foods! 

Making a spread of delicious treats, preferably home made and with your children actively involved. Cooking is a great way to bond and a useful life skill. Decorate a table in the house on Halloween, even if you go out. Be creative and festivel. 


My favorite part of Halloween. The process of wandering the night in a costume, collecting candy, fills me with thrills. I knew I could never deny this experience from my children. Yet how does one trick or treat and not allow your children to eat candy?  

If your children are older and have experienced the traditional Halloween traditions, you can't avoid it altogether.

You will have to allow SOME, but you can limit the amount and hold onto the candy after the festivities. With younger children, you can snatch the candy up and out of sight, out of mind.

Personal Story

Last year on Halloween, I took my daughter out for her first real trick or treating at the age of two.

When walked back to our house, some trick or treaters had come to our door, but we had no candy. My precious little girl reached into her basket and handed generously amounts of candy for each kid. She did this on her own, without even my suggestion. My heart swelled with pride and joy.

 Now what to do with all that candy!
I'm against being wasteful, so throwing out the candy isn't an option. I admit, last year my husband and I ate the candy. Which is an option but not the healthiest.

You can use the candy to make small gift baskets, you and your child can give them to night shift workers. Community helpers, such as emergency room workers, fire houses, police, ambulance etc, can benefits from a sugar rush in doing there jobs, which can be exhilarating.You can give out small goodie bags to give to friends, family teachers and other facility in the school. A sort of random act if kindness.

Candy the art medium
 You can save the candy for art projects.


You can use them for scientific experiments and projects. 

My motto is, you don't have to do things exactly the same, to have the special experience. 

Ps. When it come to giving out treats to trick or treaters, I by no means imply that you give out home made treats. You can instead of giving out candy, give stickers, plastic toys or fresh uncut fruit with a peel. Such as oranges or bananas. 
Also bottles of water is a great treat to give out. The kids are doing a lot of walking. Best to keep them hydrated.

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Samhain, time to talk about Death!

As the year's wheel spin to the direction of Samhain, the day of the dead, old Hallows eve, Halloween, the time of death being celebrated.

Today's culture, has embraced Halloween, a day of costumes, candy, and themes such as ghost, horror and simply death. Yes death is the main topic of this time period, the Autumn season. Even more so than in the winter, the symbolic death, which we customary celebrate the return of longer days, a new year and the anticipation of spring.

It is now, when the leaves change, that we as a species seem to focus on our own great equalizer, mortality. In some ancient cultures, people would literally bring out dead bodies from cripts and burial chambers, to visit the living. Although I don't recommend following such traditions, for neither the legal or sanitary risk are not worth it. As our modern culture embraces death with horror films, ghost stories and any story that insight fear. 

Death, being commonly feared, it is worth teaching children about the subject in a progressively healthy approach. Starting even before the equinox, it is best to start preparing for this subjects and how you can explain it to your children.

How do we as parents teach our children about the subject of death? 

You can begin with studies in nature. With small children, you may not want to explain how one day they and everyone they know will die, just yet. You can introduce death gently, with pointing out plants that are dying or dead. You could work your way up to dead insects, eventually mammals, including human.

You may want to honor your ancestors forgotten by time, by incorporating some ancient context. This is a time to inspire history. Especially many fairytales, outside the Disney context and legends are great ways to learn the mindset of the ancient people who told these stories. 

You may have statues of God's of your ancestral background. You can even incorporate Christianity. Christianity holds stronger held beliefs in regards to death and if your more recent ancestors were Christian or a different form of religion, you may want to incorporate their symbolism in relations to your ancestors or recently lost. 

Catholic saint are an effective way to use magic. Especially when dealing with Christian. They believe the saint has the power to sway gods opinion, providing the energy to find a sway them. In cases of sudden death of may, I suggest, Saint Andrew of Avellino.

Your children will have to face the loss of a loved one. 
 Sadly people in your life will die. Some of the death is expected, such as cases of advanced age and or poor health. Others are unexpected, and life is often cut short significantly

Samhain is a time to bring out picture and memorabilia of loved ones past, friends, family, etc... It is a time to remember those we have lost. If your child has not yet suffer a loss, btw pets count, tell them of loved ones you have lost. If your family has suffered a loss this year, talking about the recently departed. Encourage natural feelings your child has, rather than insist they react in a differently manner. Crying is encouraged, emotions run high in the time of Scorpio. 

Come the ending of Samhain, you and your family should begin to find peace with the new relationship with you lost loved ones, as either memories or spiritual entities. As the wheel shifts towards the longer day, begin putting the dead back in their safe place until next year.

Giving your children a healthy respect and understanding of death will allow you and your family to appreciate life, while it is available to them.

Happy Samhain!